Lately, I’ve been getting a lot of questions from my single Christian girlfriends on how to get a good man. Most of the questions have been joking remarks, but I sense these ladies are truly seeking some advice, so I’m going to offer my tips here, for what they’re worth. This is the brutal honest truth, and I certainly don’t want to offend anyone, but hopefully this is helpful advice — about how to attract a man. Maybe this post is stating the obvious..it’s definitely basic, but anyway..enough disclaimers…
Fundamentally, men want two different types of women. If you can embody both of these types into 1 person, you have the golden ticket.
Type 1: Ms. Gorgeous
Obviously, men are attracted physically. Men are attracted to a beautiful face, a sexy body, a clean & well-kept woman. This is biological, and men cannot help it — so do not judge them. Unconsciously, men want a healthy woman who will be good for child-bearing — this is basic nature. If you are lacking in this area, gain knowledge: take care of your body, eat healthy and do not overeat, learn how to clothe your body to flatter your shape, keep your hair clean and well-styled, apply make-up if necessary, get rid of unwanted hairs, do your best to present your best self physically.
Note: do not over-expose your body. This devalues your image and gives men the idea that you are cheap or desperate. Just don’t go there. “Modest is hottest” but make sure your clothing is up to date with the times.
“Your clothes should be tight enough to show you’re a woman but loose enough to show you’re a lady”. ― Marilyn Monroe
“We are all born sexual creatures, thank God, but it’s a pity so many people despise and crush this natural gift.” –Marilyn Monroe
“Remember, a man does not value that which he wins too easily.” — Widow’s Wisdom
Type 2: Ms. Genuine
Men also desire a genuine, loving, caring, supportive, and encouraging woman. This woman is understanding, patient, kind, and is easy to talk to. She truly cares about the well-being of people — all people. She has inner peace. She is joyful and has a glowing heart. She is a woman of high character, trustworthy and honest. She does not make fun of men (or anyone), put them down, or compete against them. She inspires hope. She is content and happy in her heart (this part comes from knowing Jesus Christ personally!). She respects a man’s thoughts, goals, ideas, person-hood — she does not criticize. She is filled with passion to do good. She has a childish girlish-ness to her; she asks a man for help when she needs it (and is not ashamed to ask!). This woman inspires a man to protect, cherish, and dote on her. He is intrigued by her authenticity and kindness. He feels good being around her; he feels encouraged, built up, respected, and inspired by her. He is overcome by what a special and beautiful creature she is — and he cares deeply for her.
“For attractive lips, speak words of kindness. For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people. For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry. For beautiful hair, let a child run their fingers through it once a day. For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone. People, more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed.” ~ Audrey Hepburn
These two types of women are the ideals, and no one can be perfect. But we all can change in small ways. For me, just pondering these two types of women helps me be more aware of my actions and who I want to be. We are all works in motion, and every day is a fresh start.
“There would be few marriages declared failures if both men and women would make half the effort to appear attractive, clever and amiable after marriage as they did before.” — Widow’s Wisdom