I’ve been much more in the Christmas spirit this year. My coworker has been playing a Christmas radio station non-stop at work since Thanksgiving, and somehow I have yet to inflict self-harm. The music actually makes me cheery and sentimental, and though I keep waiting for the moment when it will make me scroogify, it hasn’t happened yet.

we will be flying back to WA for Christmas, and recently there has a been discussion about having a “non-commercial” no-gift (or very minimal gift) Christmas season with my husband’s side of the family. The idea intrigued me when my MIL asked me if I had any ideas of something we could DO together, instead of buying stuff. No one in the family really needs anything, or needs to spend unnecessary money, so how about doing an activity instead?

Well, I consulted Google to gather ideas on some family activities we could do, which I will share with you. [Note: my husband comes from a family of 3 boys, none have kids yet, which makes this more challenging, but I will include other ideas that different families could use, too!]

1. buy wax and make candles together
2. look through childhood photo albums/ watch home videos
3. do a white elephant gift exchange of sorts. book exchange? bring unused things and take what you like?
4. everyone go out and shovel snow for random people. :D
5. give a list of quotes that remind you each person. or write a silly poem.
6. snowman contest
7. gingerbread house making
8. sleigh ride – we will be doing this!!
9. snow shoeing
10. drive around to neighborhoods with nice christmas lights
11. cookie baking (for boys: cookie eating contest?)
12. ice skating
13. go see a play like “It’s a Wonderful Life”
14. go caroling
15. see a live nativity
16. make snow globes
17. Wii
18. have each person write down private predictions for the new year, then hide them to be read the following year.
19. games, games, games
20. decorate gingerbread men
these were the best I could find. feel free to leave other ideas in the comments!
tidings of comfort and joy to you this season!

best dating advice on how to attract a good man

Lately, I’ve been getting a lot of questions from my single Christian girlfriends on how to get a good man. Most of the questions have been joking remarks, but I sense these ladies are truly seeking some advice, so I’m going to offer my tips here, for what they’re worth. This is the brutal honest truth, and I certainly don’t want to offend anyone, but hopefully this is helpful advice — about how to attract a man. Maybe this post is stating the obvious..it’s definitely basic, but anyway..enough disclaimers…

Fundamentally, men want two different types of women. If you can embody both of these types into 1 person, you have the golden ticket.

Type 1: Ms. Gorgeous

Obviously, men are attracted physically. Men are attracted to a beautiful face, a sexy body, a clean & well-kept woman. This is biological, and men cannot help it — so do not judge them. Unconsciously, men want a healthy woman who will be good for child-bearing — this is  basic nature. If you are lacking in this area, gain knowledge: take care of your body, eat healthy and do not overeat, learn how to clothe your body to flatter your shape, keep your hair clean and well-styled, apply make-up if necessary, get rid of unwanted hairs, do your best to present your best self physically.

Note: do not over-expose your body. This devalues your image and gives men the idea that you are cheap or desperate. Just don’t go there. “Modest is hottest” but make sure your clothing is up to date with the times.

“Your clothes should be tight enough to show you’re a woman but loose enough to show you’re a lady”. ― Marilyn Monroe

“We are all born sexual creatures, thank God, but it’s a pity so many people despise and crush this natural gift.” –Marilyn Monroe

“Remember, a man does not value that which he wins too easily.” — Widow’s Wisdom

Type 2: Ms. Genuine 

Men also desire a genuine, loving, caring, supportive, and encouraging woman. This woman is understanding, patient, kind, and is easy to talk to. She truly cares about the well-being of people — all people. She has inner peace. She is joyful and has a glowing heart. She is a woman of high character, trustworthy and honest. She does not make fun of men (or anyone), put them down, or compete against them. She inspires hope. She is content and happy in her heart (this part comes from knowing Jesus Christ personally!). She respects a man’s thoughts, goals, ideas, person-hood — she does not criticize. She is filled with passion to do good. She has a childish girlish-ness to her; she asks a man for help when she needs it (and is not ashamed to ask!). This woman inspires a man to protect, cherish, and dote on her. He is intrigued by her authenticity and kindness. He feels good being around her; he feels encouraged, built up, respected, and inspired by her. He is overcome by what a special and beautiful creature she is — and he cares deeply for her.

“For attractive lips, speak words of kindness. For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people. For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry. For beautiful hair, let a child run their fingers through it once a day. For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.  People, more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed.”  ~ Audrey Hepburn

These two types of women are the ideals, and no one can be perfect. But we all can change in small ways. For me, just pondering these two types of women helps me be more aware of my actions and who I want to be. We are all works in motion, and every day is a fresh start.

“There would be few marriages declared failures if both men and women would make half the effort to appear attractive, clever and amiable after marriage as they did before.” — Widow’s Wisdom