a tribute to women

One of my friends recently posted an article to Facebook from a website called “Ladies Against Feminism” — which claims to be a Christian-affiliated website. I was so peeved by this website that I am dedicating this post to the women over a hundred years before us that fought for our rights.

First of all, I would like to link to a copy of the “Declaration of Sentiments,” the initial document (year 1848) formatted after our Declaration of Independence demanding equal rights for women. Please read it here — it is short, to the point, and very moving.

Here is a summary of the situation of American women at that time:

  • Married women were legally dead in the eyes of the law
  • Women were not allowed to vote
  • Women had to submit to laws when they had no voice in their formation
  • Married women had no property rights
  • Husbands had legal power over and responsibility for their wives to the extent that they could imprison or beat them with impunity
  • Divorce and child custody laws favored men, giving no rights to women
  • Women had to pay property taxes although they had no representation in the levying of these taxes
  • Most occupations were closed to women and when women did work they were paid only a fraction of what men earned
  • Women were not allowed to enter professions such as medicine or law
  • Women had no means to gain an education since no college or university would accept women students
  • With only a few exceptions, women were not allowed to participate in the affairs of the church
  • Women were robbed of their self-confidence and self-respect, and were made totally dependent on men
[via legacy98]


These rights are so simple, so basic — it’s hard to believe that women had never before had any of these rights. This year is only the 100th year anniversary of women’s right to vote in California.


I believe women are still feeling the repercussions of the centuries of inequality that has taken place before us. Women still earn less than men in 99% of all occupations. Even worse is the fact that the more education a women has, the greater disparity in her wages compared to men. This means that over an estimated 47 years of full-time work, women can expect an estimated $700,000 loss of wages for high school graduates, 1.2 million for college graduates, and 2 million loss of wages for professional school graduates. See more facts here.


I believe one of the most evil lies from the enemy that circulates around the church is the idea that the main role of women is to cook and clean and look pretty. I’ve come across this idea so frequently that women’s only use is in the home. And while I agree that raising children in a godly way is of the utmost importance, I believe it can be very damaging to have daddy away from home so often working that the child is raised in an unbalanced way. We need our fathers just as much as our mothers.


I would also like to add that this “housewife” image is not healthy for teenage girls. They grow up thinking that their life cannot start until they get married, which brings an unnatural pressure on her to marry herself as soon as possible. It also adds to their pressure to be physically attractive — because if they cannot attract a man, they will be shamed by the church because they cannot become the Christian “housewife” ideal.


I think this indoctrination comes back to bite women later on in life also. When she has succeeded to marry herself, reproduce, and raise her children, what else does she do once they are gone? Caring for the husband alone appears to be a deathly boring and unstimulating position when there are no children involved — she has already conquered much greater challenges. Then comes the mid-life crisis. What is my purpose, what is my goal? she wonders. She hopes for grandchildren.


…Whereas, if this woman was raised in her teenage years to pursue her true purpose and find her own personal goals — whether that include home-making or not — I believe this woman would feel much better about herself and not look back at her life with regrets. We should validate young girls’ dreams (as we do boys) of becoming a pilot, a marine biologist, a doctor, a teacher, a president.


Women are people, divinely created by God to carry out his purposes. They have incredible influence in society, in the work-place, in the economy, in leadership, in government, in churches, and in their families. To diminish her God-given talents to baking that damn good pie or pressing that shirt to perfection is an insult to the woman herself and to her Creator.


A lot has happened this week and since my last post! On Wednesday last week, I applied for a job as an executive assistant at the Fuller Foundation, a financial services organization for Christians. The next day, I got a phone call from the screening person there, and I had a phone interview. It went well, and she set up an interview the next day, Friday. I went out that night and bought a skirt suit and heels ($200 bucks! gah!) for the interview because she told me that it was a very professional environment.

On Friday afternoon, I had the interview and I met with three different people. The interview was on the sixth floor of a building right across the street from Fuller Seminary. Everybody was so nice and professional, and it felt like a great environment. At the end of that interview, we set up a time for me to come back on Monday for a 2nd interview to meet the Executive Director who started the foundation.

On Monday afternoon, I met with the Executive Director and he was SO NICE. I was a little nervous at first since I’ve had intimidating bosses before, but he was so easy to talk to and I felt so comfortable. It probably helped that he is a graduate from TAYLOR UNIVERSITY! How awesome is that? And, he had just gotten back from Homecoming at Taylor University the weekend before! Also, he introduced me to another girl that works in the adjacent office who also graduated from Taylor, just a year before me! She looked very familiar, and I just looked her up on Facebook, and we have 12 mutual friends, including one of my neighbors here! Wow!

At the end of that interview, he offered me the job. He said that they will still have to run the background check and call my references, but that he would love to have me join the team! Yay! We talked about pay briefly and it is looking like I will be getting a good upgrade there, plus full benefits for Paul and I. I am going to wait until they confirm with my references and background check to give my 2-weeks notice at my current job, but I am so excited!

When I left the interview, the other Executive Assistant (whom I will be working with and sitting next to) left with me and we went in the elevator together and she just congratulated me and expressed how excited she was, too. I feel like she is going to be great to work with. She also shared with me one of the great perks about our job. Everyday they cater in lunch from various restaurants around Pasadena — company paid for. We, as Exective Assistants, get to choose the restaurant every day! Amazing! (I hope I don’t gain weight!)

I feel blessed beyond measure.

jesus, take the wheel!

The interview last Friday went…okay. It wasn’t bad, I just feel like I’ve walked out of interviews feeling a lot better before. I distinctly sensed that the man thought I was young. Whether that means I reminded him of his granddaughter, or that I’m inexperienced, or that I just have youthful skin, I do not know — but that is how I felt I was perceived. There was just this look with a little smile when I was speaking that gave me the sense that he thought I was young — in a negative way. Sigh.

However, at the end he did add that “I am just starting out in my career,” which seemed to be a positive comment.

Honestly, I have no idea, but I have big doubts that anything will come of it. Sigh. As my co-worker would say, “Jesus, take the wheel!”

Meanwhile, I have been accepted at Utah State University to take online prerequisite classes for Speech-Language Pathology! Yay! Classes don’t start until January, but I’m getting very excited.

I haven’t decided how many classes I will take yet. If I am working full-time, I will try to take two courses and see if I can handle that. I’d like to just go full-time school and get it done as fast as possible, but that will all depend on what kind of part-time jobs Paul and I can get. I really need to get straight A’s on all my prerequisites, so that I can have the best changes of getting accepted into the graduate school of my choice. I don’t want to overload myself with classes if it will make my grades suffer.

Anyway, just wanted to update you on that!

Love to all!


I am very happy to report that today the Braille Institute contacted me for another in-person interview! Yippee! I will be interviewing with the head of the department late Friday afternoon. This will be my 3rd interview with them, if you include the initial phone interview. I’m very excited and hopeful that this will be my new job, but it is all in God’s hands.

I did pray to God before my other in-person interview to please not put me through all this for nothing. I know God works in mysterious ways, but I’m asking him to please not put my nerves through this if it’s not going to go somewhere! I think it’s a fair thing to ask. ;)

Other news…

I got a haircut last weekend! Woot! It’s just some basic layers, but I’m liking it much better. Haircuts are pretty pricey around here. This one cost $55 plus tip! And you can easily find places charging much more.  Here’s the Pic of the Day from that day:

We’ve been having somewhat gloomy/cloudy days recently. It reminds me of Seattle sometimes, and I like it. I’m so looking forward to the end of this month when I get to visit home and help host Ivory’s bridal shower!

A little update on my post from August (here): I’ve narrowed down my career list since that post to two options: Grant Writing or Speech-Language Pathology (which requires grad school). Right now, I’m pursuing both. I have applied to an online prerequisite program for SLP, and I should hear back within 2 weeks if I am accepted. The grant writing option is already in motion with this interview.

Becoming a speech-language pathologist sounds the most appealing to me right now. I think I would really thrive in an environment where I can help people one-on-one, and be challenged every day. I think I would also like not being behind a computer screen all day–although there will be paperwork involved and I would need to write daily reports. Anyway, I’ve just been attracted to it lately, and I’m really hoping I will get accepted to start taking some prerequisites!

Although SLP is my preference right now, I would still absolutely take the job at the Braille Institute. Grant writing is very interesting to me as well, however, I don’t think I will actually know what it’s like until I get a job doing it.

It’s in God’s hands, and I am content with that.